Chit Chat: The Power Of Compliments

I spent all of last week sick but I had so many deadlines it was impossible for me to miss work. It was clear that I was feeling miserably but more work kept getting added to my plate which required me to stay at the office late almost everyday. I am going to admit that this lead to me be a little grumpy with a sense of being unappreciated by my boss and coworkers. Then I had a meeting with a new client and during our meeting my new client informed me that she was so happy I was the attorney working on her case. She told me about how one of my former clients had sang numerous praises for my work including how effective and efficient I had been. My mood instantly lifted and I became determined to do my best work possible.

Over the weekend while thinking about the conversation with my new client I finally realized the power compliments have. Giving a compliment is so simple but the act is often overlooked. How many times have you thought to yourself how much you like someone's dress or how someone had done a great job but never spoke up to express your admiration? Compliments are a powerful way to boost morale and build relationships. A genuine compliment takes only seconds to give its effect last much longer.

Years ago I made it a point to give compliments more freely and I have stuck to that goal, whether it is praising a coworker's job or telling a stranger I pass in a crowded store how much I love her scarf, but over the weekend I have realized that even I have been stingy with giving kind words. Compliments are so infrequent but they make people feel so good. When people feel good they remember who it was that made them feel that way. In keeping with my resolution to be kinder I am going to aim to give more compliments.

I read somewhere months ago that if you praise someone's character trait or talent they will try to live up to the praise given. I believe this couldn't be truer. After my client left my office I was motivated to do a great job and determined to not let her down. This year I am going to focus on the less obvious things to praise, whether it is a friend's loyalty, a neighbor's kindness, or how a coworker gives the most persuasive presentations.

Let's all try to brighten someone's day, spread some encouragement, and send a little good karma our own way.

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